Apr
I have a VERY race genetic condition. I don't know the name of it sorry, it's complicated and hard to remember. However, with all the millions of genes that make us, us. I have faulty ones that control my muscles. I’m CONSTANTLY very weak, and I take medication to help my muscles work to some extent. Without my medication, I can not even climb a flight of steps without collapsing. Now I'm not here for sympathy, as I’ve learnt to live with it, and be grateful for what I have. However, I'd like to specifically point this in the direction of someone who has experienced being pushed away, either at school, at work, or at a public place, for a disease, condition or other type of illness. When I’m at school, I get it ripped out of me constantly…
“Oh Hey Spaz!”
“Can't Catch Me Spastic!”
“You Can't Even Move Your Eyes!”
I’m 14 now, and I have learnt to deal with it, and stick to friends that respect me for me and my personality. However, around what age is it that people tend to GROW UP, and start treating other human beings like people, not bullying, and hurting them???
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It's a little thing called ignorance. If people can't or don't comprehend somthing they mock it.
My sister is disabled, she is only ten, and she has to put up with stuff very similar to you. I think somwhere along the way people forgot their humanity.
Recently at school i seriously lost my temper with a couple of girls who were being bloody offensive about disabilities and unfortunatly i was the one who wound up getting in trouble. Theres not much you can do, because society decided that they needn't waste time on educating their youths on disabilities etcetc.
Those people at your school actually disgust me, and you should actually pity them. They’re ignorant little nobodies, and clearly havent the social skills nor the knowledge to accept that people can be different.
I think this was more of a rant than an answer, but i recommend you talk to people about this. Whoever it is. Because somtimes all you need is a little support and a few friends and family members to remind you that there are people out there with a heart.
That and you approach your school. No way in hell should ANYONE get away with comments like that. Don't be aggressive or rash. It never works.
Be strong kid ;]
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Most of them will feel bad about it later in life. They don't know how to cope with things they don't understand yet. Just know it isn't going to be like that forever. There will always be pricks but most of them will grow out of it.
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Hi, sorry to hear about your troubles. Genuine people normally grow up and stop being mean by the time they reach college, Others will always be assholes.
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Kids are cruel, despite them being in middle and/or high school they’re still kids if they name call, mock, or make fun of you. And I;m sorry to say, it might not stop even when you go to college, just stick to your real friends who respect you.
I think that one way to halt cruelty among children is education. If they only knew how you’ve more challenges and have to struggle to do normal things that they take for granted. If they knew about the disease and the symptoms about it it could stop some of the name calling.
Also as a young person, it might be best if you join a support group with others who have the same/similar disease as you to help you deal with situations like this and future problems.
I hope I was a tiny help. Good luck.
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It depends. A lot of kids are the nastiest of people at times because of maturity. Some may act like an idiot for the rest of their lives, some will develop a sense of how other people feel that can come along when people mature which can be at 13-14 or even 18+. From past experience, I had problems until 16 with bullying then I did more education at 18 with people around the same age and the way people acted was a lot different, you still had a few immature ones but there was a lot more respect.
Hope everything becomes better for you, bullies are sad excuses for human beings and it will come back to them one day later in their lives so try not to worry about it too much!
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To be honest I think that what is happening to you is really cruel, i really have never understood why some people feel the need to pick on someone else for something they can't help. Someone I've known since i was 11 (I'm now 17) died recently, i don't know what caused it but he was disabled and he was also one of the kindest and most pleasant people i've ever met in my life.
I myself was born as a red-head (not anywhere near the same thing I know) and from the moment I was old enough to comprehend i've been teased and called some ridiculous names because of it. After a while i became used to it though and it hardly ever got to me after that, when it did though it was like a kick in the face. I hate to see it happen to others and i would never intensionally inflict that kind of injured on another person.
Your 14 now right? I think you'll find in the next few years as the people around you mature and as you put it 'grow up' the teasing should stop or at least lessen a bit, I think the need to say things like that’s brought on by a lack of understanding, a lack of maturity or an inferiority complex posessed by the bully.
I remember back when i first met him the boy who died stated 'I am better then no man and no man is better then me' its the first thing that made me respect him because he realised that his disability and difference didn’t make him either better or worse then anyone else and he knew that as long as he believed that, it didn't matter what anyone else said. The fact is you’re human, we all are and your right, the sooner some people grow up and realise that the superior off we'll be, kids can be crule.
In my school at the moment I'm a mentor, i look after some of the younger pupils to ensure that type of thing doesn't happen, in particular i have a 13 year old boy with one arm who gets badly teased in school during PE because he can't catch the ball properly, i really hate to see how that effects him because i know its going to have a lasting effect and even though i try to keep him smiling, i'm worried about him, he won't tell me who is saying what so i can't do anything but tell him not to listen and i know its not enough.