Apr
This question is regarding mine and my partners sex life.
If i can't ask for advice off Y!A, where can i ask?
I really haven't got the patients for immature, childish answers as this is a very serious matter to me.
Me and my partner have been together for over 3ys.
Our sex life has always been pretty good, but hes also sometimes had the problem of ejaculating very very early. (30sec - 2mins) early.
This is having a massive impact on our sex life, as he doesn't feel confident to have sex anymore. He has been having this problem quite commonly throughout the whole of our r.ship.
We’ve totally no more answers to this problem, he’s refusing to see a doctor, yet we’ve tried everything you can think of, such as the condoms to help him last longer (no luck), pulling out earlier to try and stop himself, yet when he inserts again he feels ready to ejaculate (tmi sorry), more and more foreplay, (no luck) there are more and more, but none have worked.
We’ve no idea as to what we have the ability to do next, have any of you had experience with this? and managed to sort it in any way, except having to go and visit the physicians? My partner has told me he would prefer go absolutely without sex from now on and just be happy with oral, i don't find this fair? Im supporting him the ideal way i can, i just want us to have a happy and healthy sex life..
Any ideas?
Me and my partner
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Hmm, that's a tricky one. Without him going to the physicians, i'm not sure there's a reasonable cure. he could find short term help with… accessories (you can get rings and such like that help last longer). You're right that it's not fair to only have oral, you need a sex life too. When he has completed, would he be ready again soon after? Maybe the second time he'll last longer? I'm certain it's very embarrasing for a man, but he may need to swallow his pride and see a doctor. They have met far worse problems than that and they won't think any less of him. Perhaps try a herbalist? You could go yourself then he doesn't need to worry about his pride that way.
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sorry but I don’t agree with any of these answers. this is all psychological, what’s happening is, he is rushing himself through sex which is leading to premature ejaculation. the refusal of going to the doctor is the first clue for you. if you two really love each other he needs to slow down and enjoy your private time together good luck
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I’ve the same trouble and I’ve a small penis.
Have him give you oral (until orgasm) as part of foreplay!
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DR Kyron MD is correct.Take his advice
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One of the easiest, and certainly the cheapest, ways of dealing with premature ejaculation is to make sure the man masturbates about an hour before he’s going to have sex. No this will take some careful planning and a great deal of loving concern, because he might not be comfortable with the idea.
Masturbation can often take the urgency away from sexual intercourse, therefore in the the case of PE, where usually psychological forces are at play, it has the effect of lengthening the second sexual encounter.
You might need to try this approach a few time to get your timing right, because each person will have a different recovery rate. There will also be the matter of how you plan your sexual encounters, because this tends to take away the spontaneity of sex and turn it into a planned event. But if you’re prepared to try, you might find it works out well for you both.
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There is no remedy/ medication for it at all in the medical science however the first ever drug has been introduced in sweden and pending licences in europe hopefully will be on sale after april DAPOXETINE is the name of new pill, but only a few herbal meds can do it bit bit very lil superior.
I advocate you try a lot of oral first and when you are about to ejuculate ask him to put in so you can enjoy, i dont think there’s any established medicen for it as yet though there are few excersices to develope lil controll. goolge it.
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I know what he's going through.
What I've found to work for me is to masturbate once a night (if he feels up to it) and not grant himself to ejaculate before 15 - 30 minutes has passed. If he gets close he need to cease and let himself rest for 20 seconds (or until the feeling subsides) then start again. the reason for this is it trains his body to last longer. And it makes orgasm so much superior.
Also I do Kegals. It's an exercise where you tighten and release the muscles on the floor of you abdomen. When you ejaculate these muscles begin to tighten and release sporadically, when you do kegals you gain more control over the muscles and in turn more control over your ejaculation.
Now there are other reasons for his problem that could be the cause. but they require a physician visit to test. He needs to go get checked, as it might simply be that his prostate is enlarged. Or that he has a chemical imbalance that he has the ability to get some anti-depressants to help fix.