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I have. They've totally lost they're individuality and moulded their minds on the ideas of general society.
i don't like it. This has caused many arguments: I've been so tense recently i've felt permanently sick.
*Anonymous and luvin it*
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Hmmm…. it appears that I don't seem to “follow the norm” even with this question. I’ve NEVER wanted to be like my parents (I have a step-dad - my real dad left us when I was 7) because of their narrow-minded attitudes towards things. For example, my step-dad HATES French people and makes fun of them each chance he gets. I asked him when I was still living at their house, “why do you hate the French so much, when you grew up in a town that had 80% French people living there?” He's never answered the question to today. My mom is a fly-off-the-handle, screamer, throw things across the room, when she is confronted or given a different opinion of something other than her own. Both my younger sister and I left their home at a very early age (I left at 15). My parents were just too critical and sarcastic and cruel in their behaviours. I haven't seen them or spoken to them in over 10 yrs.
I don't hold anything against my parents, I just feel that distance is the ideal option for me. I really don't need or want my parents in my life. Plain and easy.
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My father passed away nearly 14 years ago, but when he was alive he was a heavy drinker, and I realised early on that I didn't want to be like him in that respect because it turned him into a different person - one that was aggressive and irrational. I’ve the odd couple of drinks but that's about it. However, I’m like him in so many other ways. Despite his drinking he was a very sociable person with many friends and I too am like this; he didn't like his own company and neither do I. I also share his sense of humour and like nothing more than to have a good laugh. My father was his own person and I am too.
It's good to hang onto the positive traits we get from our parents but ideal to ditch the negative ones. In any case, best of all is just being your own person, someone who still has some of their traits but also plenty of your own.
It's a shame when people lose their individuality/identity in a bid to conform to society's norm. It doesn't matter if we are different from the norm, because we are all different but EQUAL in any case.
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Why not let people be who they want to be and if it's part of the crowd, so be it.
I always swore as a teen I'd never ever be like my mother for many reasons - and I'm not, I'm me but I've found - with age - that a lot of things she did were personal choices for her that worked for her. Her religion for instance - it annoyed the heck out of me that though I didn't believe in her religion, I had to go to church week after week - eventually stopping as an adult. I realized when older that this was something she truly believed and in making me go and asking me to believe what she did she felt she was helping me - and I don't believe what she does even now - but I know that she loves me and wanted something that was so right for her and makes her so happy to make me happy too.
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Yes, most people do want to be different from their parents when they get older. Just keep in mind that its totally normal for parents and children to have their share of differences, and the problems that you get into arguments over are probably not as bad as you think. Trust me, one day you’ll look back and wish that you had enjoyed your time with your parents more. If your differences are harmless, just agree to disagree so everyone can be happier!
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That's a very interesting question. I think that your parents and your relationship with them greatly affects you as a person.
I myself am the opposite. My parents are active, interesting, hard working and compassionate people, and they've inspired me to try and emulate them in the future. I'd like to think that had my parents been dull I would not feel the same, I would want to break free and be creative and interesting. But would I be the same person I am today if I had dull parents? It raises lots of questions.
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I love my parents.
They're great people.
I hope I become like them in many ways - or at least similar.
Even with that, I still want to be me - not my parents.
I do have friends that have bad parents though. For them, I comprehend why they want to be different. You have to be yourself always. There's no need to be just like anyone else.
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the thing is that you will adopt certain charicturistics from your parents but you will mould these to yourself and make these your own tthats what kids do thats what i do
i have my dads work ethic (but use it for a,musement rather than cesless advancement and helping others)
i have my mothers moral values (but i would not call them christian values)
we argue about most things endlessly in the same way but with a different point of view I AM MY OWN PERSON but i am also there son and i can see the resembalence even if i deny it and so will you
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I realised 6 years ago that I don't want to be like my parents, it took me till 6 years ago to realise that they never treated me appropriately and I wouldn't like to follow there footsteps and put my kids through what they have put me and my sisters and brother through. x
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Hell yeah. Ive made that the biggest promise to myself since I was a tiny girl. In some ways, I can't help it…but I try not to make the same mistakes as my Mom. But then again, thats why the human race grows and develops, right? We learn from our past…and we grow…. and transform.
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I pledge to myself daily that I will NOT be like my estranged mother or my absentee father. (My parents divorced when I was young.) I hope to never, ever follow their example in so many things.
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in someways maybe yeah, in some other ways i would kill myself to be a tiny bit like them,
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i realized i didnt want to be like my parents. good reasoning on your behalf
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I believe most of us go through stages where we don't want to be like our parents, and swear we will never do what they did. I don't think that it is a bad thing to want to do things your own way, after all you’ve a brain and you’re using it as you mature. I just caution you to remain respectful of your parent's choices, especially while you’re living at home with them: this is so you’ll have no regrets in the future. When you’re able to be out and on your own, you will have lots of time to live the way you would like to live. Then, if you are like me and quite a bit older, you might see the value in the way your parents did things. At times I detested my mom and her ways, but now I hope I do as well as she’s doing when I reach her age.