Apr
Im 15 and i have really bad family problems at the moment and im finding it hard to cope with it all, i blame myself for everything what happens. i try and speak to people about it but its just to hard for me to state it hurts and aches inside of me. I like drawing and i draw of how im feeling and what i see or hear my friend before saw me drawing somthing witch i guess you wouldnt really call normal to draw and i just feel like im so messed up at the moment, do you think counselling would help me?
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personally, i know exactly how you feel (almost) since i suffer from depression. i have counseling once a week at college and they have helped my a huge amount. iv learn loads about myself and given me loads of things that i can try to sort everything out.
for you i feel that it would help you out because you’ll have someone who you will be able to speak to and will listen to you and give you encouragement and advice. your drawings will be a very good thing and will help the counselor to understand exactly how you feel.
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15 is a hard age when everything is going good, but with family problems, it can be almost impossible. Counseling might help you learn more ways to cope. It might not help, though if the problems are abusive, drug, or alcohol problems in the home (getting out would be the only way to immediately fix that, followed by counceling). You might want to try meditation and visualization techniques (which you would learn if you went to counseling) to help. But nothing replaces being able to express yourself, and if you think you could do that better in counseling, it'd be worth a try. Keep drawing, though; it's very beneficial even if you can talk to someone.
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I don't know what your family problems are at the moment, but I feel all of it seems to be overwhelming you to the point where you’re on the edge of a possible breakdown if you don't get help.
You must now try and psychologically cut yourself off from your family problems and look after your self… 'big time.'
Some things are out of our control, but the one thing you can control is what happens to you. You have to get a bit selfish here and begin looking after No.1, other people will have to look after their own crap. It seems other people in your life are distracted with their own agenda's otherwise they might have noticed that the 15 year old in their house is struggling.
You shouldn't be having to cope with this on your own ideally, but from what I can gage , you’re!
So get some help asap, and counselling is definitely a good begin. Bless You!!
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The fact you're thinking about getting counselling suggests it would probably help you. If you can't talk to your friends then someone neutral to speak to would be beneficial as well.
Good luck, and don't blame yourself for every problem, I'm sure everything can't be all your fault.
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sounds like counselling is the way forward for you. many counsellors will ask you how you would like to work, and can incorporate your artistic approach into the sessions, as artwork allows you an outlet of expression and feeling that your mind sometimes shuts out.
look for a humanistic or person centred therapist
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give i a try, it can't injured
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First off, you are using your creativity as an outlet…thats remarkable in itself!!! This is how people become such good artist, by expressing themselves thru art. Poetry would be a good thing to try as well. I think you’re a very smart person!!!
Remember this: You’re not your family and you’re not responsible for their problems!!!
Blaming yourself for their problems is your biggest problem. If you can create a dialog within yourself, saying to yourself things you have always needed others to say, like: “you are a good person!” “Your heart is in the right place” “You truly love these people” “they are doing the best they can” “you are doing the best you can” etc. Speak to yourself inside as if you’re talking to someone who is going thru this very same thing. You can imagine what someone would need to hear if they were in the same shoes as you…talk to yourself just as you would talk to them.
It would be great if you could find someone to speak to about what is going on in your life. But until then, you need to be your ideal buddy. Be there for you when no one else will…even if you had people loving you and falling at your feet in worship, if you dont like yourself and blame yourself for everything, and dont support yourself inside, you would still feel empty and hopeless.
The only way to feel less empty is to fill the void inside you with uplifting words you need to hear. Do this and you will find that even tho everyone around you is falling apart, you can feel stable and stand up and be strong….for yourself, and for others.
ps…keep your art work, who knows, it might bring you an income one day!!!