Apr
My boyfriend has a few issues which I'm worried about, and I think he needs some help but I'd like some outsiders views.
He has insomnia, has previously has an eating disorder, he obsesses about dark music, all the tv programs and things he likes are kind of substitute and about people who dont fit in, maybe he relates to this.
He was bullied in school, his dad died when he was nine, he has no real aspiration in life, his older brother is his only rolemodel and he's really not the best. He does impulsive things for thrills and he's preoccupied with death, he doesnt seem to care if he died. He lives for the present, he's blocked out his past and he wont look into the future.
He states he's happy, because he's got me, but thats putting some pressure on me, because i'd be afraid to ever take that happiness away from him for fear he'd do something stupid.
Do you think this sounds like depression?
What can I do?
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Just an substitute opinion:
Some people just are generally cynical or deep thinkers.
I think about death a lot, but I'm not depressed it is simply an intriguing subject because no one will ever really know what happens. Hence why there are so many different religions because people think in different ways.
The recovery from an eating disorder may have provoked this especially if he was near to death then it would just be natural for him to consider.
Treatment for the insomnia would probably help his general mood.
Talk to him about it and offer to get him help if he feels like it's having an effect on his life but make sure u both speak to other people about it because it's not good to try and cope with another persons problems alone. The way he's saying he's happy cus he has you is putting pressure on you and make sure he realizes this and so it is important he gets help if u both feel he needs to.
Good luck
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It could be depression because of the insomnia and he used to have eating disorders. All the thoughts about death could also be depression. Take a look at the Wikipedia article called Major Depressive Episode.
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Treating the insomnia might bring about significant change in his mood , try something like valerian hops ( a blend of herbs known for their calming effects on the nervous system ) . and tell him to seek cognitive therapy to exorcise the demons in his psyche …hope this lekps
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it seems as thought your BF has the thought that there is nothing left to live for get him into some hobbies to help his mind get distracted from the negativity in life and focus on the positive it might help
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He sounds down. Firstly, you gotta get him to talk about it. Deep conversation.
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From my experience it sounds like your partner might suffer from some sort of depression, even though it does vary from person to person. I was seriously struggling to sleep and have since been prescriped anti-depressants which have helped me. I didnt have the ideal childhood and it has since been found that it was linked to that.
The following are listed as symptoms on the website in sources -
You feel miserable and sad.
You feel tired a lot of the time with no energy .
You feel as if even the smallest tasks are sometimes impossible.
You seldom enjoy the things that you used to enjoy-you might be off sex or food or may 'comfort eat' to excess.
You feel very anxious sometimes.
You don't want to see people or are scared to be left alone. Social activity may feel hard or impossible.
You find it difficult to think clearly.
You feel like a failure and/or feel guilty a lot of the time.
You feel a burden to others.
You sometimes feel that life isn't worth living.
You can see no future. There is a loss of hope. You feel all you've ever done is make mistakes and that's all that you ever will do.
You feel irritable or angry more than usual.
You feel you’ve no confidence.
You spend a lot of time thinking about what has gone wrong, what will go wrong or what’s wrong about yourself as a person. You might also feel guilty sometimes about being critical of others (or even thinking critically about them).
You feel that life is unfair.
You have difficulty sleeping or wake up very early in the morning and can't sleep again. You seem to dream all night long and sometimes have disturbing dreams.
You feel that life has/is 'passing you by.'
You may have physical aches and pains which appear to have no physical cause, such as back pain.
I hope this helps, and your boyfriend manages to find some help of some sort.