May
I’ve been dating him for almost a year and i love him but sometimes his ADHD can be annoying. I dont comprehend how he can blame nearly everything i get mad at him for on ADHD. Is it really that bad. As a straight A focused student it is hard to understand how he can act that way. He is on medicine but i can always tell when it wears off and when he's on it he seems so quiet it's scary. I wish he could find a medium. and as i stated we’ve been dating for a year and are going to college together. Please help me learn more or give advice if you can. he does things like interrupt what im talking about with saying something thats on tv. Gives me hugs that are so tight they injured but its not intentional. I remind him to be gentle and hes fine. I guess i dont know what else. answer if you’ve an idea or advice.
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My boyfriend has ADD - and I know that it can be frustrating sometimes. We’ve absolutely different ways of organizing things, he's not good at remembering dates, he can sometimes talk for hours without letting me get a word in edgewise. A lot of the time, I'm a personal assistant in addition to being a girlfriend, finding things that he's lost, reminding him about things he has to do, etc.
ADD and ADHD are tricky. Medicating them isn’t as straightforward as some other conditions. The amount of medication someone needs can vary, and people who are on ADD or ADHD meds sometimes don't like taking them because they begin to feel really dull on them. As you pointed out - your boyfriend gets really quiet. Mine has told me that sometimes on meds he doesn't feel like himself. It's hard to get enthusiastic about things, etc. If your boyfriend is super quiet on meds but crazy off of them, then maybe the dose needs to be adjusted - he might need a lower dosage so that he can still focus while he's on the meds, but not get really quiet and dull.
My boyfriend doesn't tend to take his meds if he doesn't need to. For exams and revision and going to class he'll take them but if it's just a normal day he may lay off them because he feels more like himself without them - which is totally fine to do, and many doctors recommend it. I know a lot of people who take meds during the school year but take a break over the summer when they don't have to concentrate so much.
I think the best advice I’ve for you is to just be patient and remind him when he does things like interrupting you or squeezing you too tight. He does care about you and doesn't mean to be rude or hug you too tight, but he just may not realize that's what he's doing when he's off his meds. It can be frustrating at times, but if he's anything like mine he means well and does care about you, and just needs to be reminded sometimes that we're not all moving at the same speed that he is.
If you love him enough to figure him out and adjust to his quirks then keep at it and have patience.
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you should know that you are sacrificing your quality of life to stay with him
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Get the He!! away from him
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here is some good advice
remove all aspartame foods and drink ffrom his diet
remove all e numbers additives get back to fairly organic diet see if this helps
study and apply good nutrition
get his entire spinal system checked out
give him massage especiay over his back
spiritual healing and reki will help too
and get him to do some voluntary work as well 1 hr a day
a concept called karma and this seems to be the only thing stopping us from achieving , health wealth and happiness One of the most powerful allies to any person is to know about karma therapy for if you understand this you can even
Avoid getting health or wealth or happiness problems
Or if you currently have problems in those areas Give you the most effective tool, which I’ve come across to help you alleviate them.
This is the tool The value of givingPutting something or some service into society is one of the most transforming tools with which we all benefit . The value of it is much higher than we have the ability to possibly know and it should be included as part of everyone’s health program. The giver might ask how will helping others help my health and me! That is a very good question, which is very worthy of a serious amount of thought. This touches on the concept which is called karma .
For if one truly wants to live with the great allies of Health, wealth, happiness, Love and all those effects which one values one should really understand this concept. It is the only thing, which explains the apparent randomness of the effects, which come upon people.
Effects are all aspects of health, Wealth, Richness, [note these two are separate] Happiness etc.What is karma? Put simply it is the law of cause and effect. Or put as another way as you sow so shall you reap, or what goes around comes around. What do we mean by sowing? Simply each action or deed you do causes an effect and each thought causes an effect.
So if you’ve sown good deeds as in helping others, being of service, giving love and Kindness for lengthy periods of time you can anticipate to reap those seeds. Alternatively if we have sown other deeds and thoughts of a hurtful nature we have the ability to expect problems of one nature or another to beset us. Edgar Cayce frequently mentioned in treating disease that we were working against karma and frequently told people that they would get well faster by helping others.
Ah you might say why is it that babies are sometimes born with so many impediments; they have not sown wrongful acts.Yes they’ve not in this lifetime but what about their previous lives as in reincarnation. You might not wish to go into this subject at this time but there are millions of references to it, some in the bible and a lot of eastern religions, some people can actually remember their past lives.
There’s now even past life regression therapy used in hypnosis to treat phobias, which are not connected with this lifetime.
now listen to this next concept really carefully
If we are unwell and by implication therefore suffering from past seeds sown it follows therefore one of the fastest ways to get well is to incorporate into your treatment plan service or giving to somebody as often as you can .
Ask for opportunities to be of service .I’ve proved this concept on a daily basis and feel that this concept is so important in all types of healing and to accomplish other effects like having friends ,enriching experiences, money and other effect which we all need.
Just a few examples of how we have the ability to be of service –giving Sharing our being, our wealth, sending our thoughts, giving to charity, sharing a joke, uplifting someone, giving listening time, giving healing, giving labour, giving love, giving entertainment, giving food, giving information and a million more ways.
Edgar cayce gave many thousands of examples of karma at work ,he even told one person who asked to be healed that to cure him of this thing would be to no avail as another would surely come .
As you can see from this statement the man has got to work it off ,this apply to us all and its not just health either that this applies to .Virtually each effect you can name .
All is seen ,all is heard, all is felt.
The wise among you will take the attitude of discovering the areas of service you have to make amends on before effects of ill health reach you whether it be cancer, Parkinson’s blindness or what have you.
So I strongly advise that you engage in some kind of voluntary work and I believe that virtually everyone should be engaged in some kind of healing practice for others preferably on a daily basis.
how to discover this?Well I advocate you pray to be shown or ask the universe to reveal it to you. reveal the areas which are most suited to serviceJust going along in your life and living for self and not bothering until problems come can be very painful.
It is almost like asking for trouble to come ,.all our healing yours mine is linked right alongsid
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Don't listen to anyone who tells you to run or get away. I have a 25 year old who is married with kids that has ADHD. What you need to do is go to Google and research this better. Don't go to a site like this and just anticipate to get answers that are meaningful. ADHD is a lable. Each person is different and obviously you understand him and love him or you would not have tolerated this for so long. Interrupting is normal. Read up on it. The internet will tell you why he does it and what you can do to get him to stop. Yes, there actually is a way. If you love him, then learn about him and deal with it. You’re in no danger or anything.