Does anyone regret finding out the sex of the baby? Or does it help u bond better with it?

I cant decide what to do so all help would be appreciated.

I think it would maybe help my husband to bond more also so he wont need to refer to the bump as “it”, it cant be simple for the guys to bond cos they also dont feel the kicks.

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Well i wanted to know with my first but he always had his legs closed at each scan so i had to wait for the day and the next 4 i found out the sex but #6 we decided to wait for a suprise cause we’ve 5 boys and it almost killed us the anxiety of not knowing and i did feel unable to attach properly cause it''s not nice being called an it and you cant rub your tummy and say yep thats my boy or girl and you cant talk dirrectly to him/her its always an it i think its nicer to know early then you can pick the right name you plan his/her nursery and clothes and little girl or boy things to fill the room thats exciting goodluck !

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I didn't find out with my son and it was lovely having a surprise and it gave me something to focus on in labour guessing whether i was having a boy or girl. But this time around we wanted to know and found out its a baby girl, i definitely feel as though we’ve bonded with her we call her by her name instead of saying it and its been nice to select girly clothes and decorate her bedroom. We also had a 4d scan 2 weeks ago and it was amazing to see her tiny face yawning and sucking her thumb but i don't think that’ll take from the surprise of seeing her face when she is born because she’ll have changed so much by then. What ever you decide to do will be the right choice because i had a good experience both times.

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I have never been so excited in my life, i get to find out what i'm having in 2 weeks, i'm so ready to state my little boy or girl..my daughter or son. I'm excited to give the baby its name finally. Let me just say there isn't a right or wrong way but finding out only helps you in the long run, because your going to know at some point anyway and when you know what your having then you get so prepared!! You can have your nursery ready, you can have clothes ready, etc. I state find out, thats my opinion.

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I personally have to know. I'm a planner, I want the nursery to be right, have the first outfit picked out and of course the name. I always said that after our first (a girl - who didn't show) if the 2nd was a boy I wouldn't find out anymore after there. But it didn't work out that way and I have 3 girls.

I state it does help bond the dad and the mother closer to the baby because you know who it's going to be.

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I just found out 2 weeks ago that I’m having a boy and I couldn't be more thrilled! I am so happy I found out. Before this, I felt stuck, like I couldn't move forward with all the planning. The moment I found out I was able to go register and decide on bedding for the nursery! I felt that I just needed to know. This is my first and its all new to me! Its definitely help me bond more! We already call the baby by his name! I definitely do not regret finding out! For my second however, I think I might like to be surprised!

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Well I don't feel like I “bonded” superior with my baby after I found out what she was. However, it made it sooo much easier to get prepared for her. I was able to buy everything I wanted in PINK and not just a “neutral” color. I also care about it because I was able to get a few things personalized and was able to get a just begin on buying her clothes. Her room is super feminine, and I am glad I was able to do it for her that way instead of just yellows and greens.

On the other side I have the ability to see how people would love the suprise of it too. I am just a “can't wait” kind of person.

Either way has its pros and cons.

Good luck and congrats.

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I found it made both me and my partner at the time bond to the baby even more, because once you know the sex, then you chose a name, the baby becomes a real human being rather than a nameless it.

But everyone has their own reasons for choosing to find out the sex or not, some of my friends enjoyed the surprise factor of not knowing.

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when i found out i was having a girl it helped me bond with my bump. As me & my partner have decided on her name, and bought some cute pink baby clothes for her arrival. I think it helped my partner bond better with our bump, he seems closer to her as well. Speaks to her for hours about his day now! Even though you need to talk to your husband about this because he may want to wait to find out the sex.

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With my first baby we weren't going to find out the sex… We wanted the “big surprise”. But by the time I started feeling kicks, I needed to know who it was kicking me. We found out we were having a girl, and I was so happy we did. I felt much more bonded with her almost immediately. It sounds silly, but being able to cease using the term “it” is large in itself. I'm pregnant again, and we're definitely finding out again. (I just had my 12 week scan today and they stated they're pretty sure it's a boy!) Anyway… good luck on your decision. It's not an simple one!

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i couldnt wait to find out what sex i was having, but in the long run would you like to start buying pink or blue or have a nice surprise when you give birth with the midwife shouting its a girl or its a boy lol

either way soon as your baby is born you’ll just wanna hold him and not take your eyes off the baby

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I HAVE to know…I need to know what colours I want, the name, etc. I couldn't bear waiting until the end…I personally don't need that kind of surprise.

You don't have to call the baby “it” though…we call ours “Mookie”…lol. (Inside joke). But once we find out the sex, I just think it makes planning easier.

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i found out at 5 months because my partner couldnt wait, but i was so happy when i found out it was a boy, and i dont regret it because ive bonded with him and spoke to i as a boy and been able to name him and buy all the blue things..i just couldnt wait to find out..so just do what u think is ideal either way ull be happy if u find out now or wait.

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I don't regret it at all…but I have to warn you that my husband still called the bump “the baby” never “her”…I found out do I could purchase clothes and things in the right colour…I didn't want a load of white and yellow things…All of that talk of surprises is silly to me…seeing their face for the first time is surprise enough…I think those 3 D scans are more of a surprise wrecker.

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i couldn’t even think of waiting with my daughter but i am almost 4 months pregnant and i am going to find out but i do think it would be fun to have that surprise! i hate calling him/her and it and i bond with my baby regardless but i can never wait i need ot begin shopping pink and blue!

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I just found out today we're having a girl and I'm sooo glad to know!

She's been 'real' to me for a few weeks already because she's been moving around a lot, but this is when it really sinks in…..

It's not just a baby or an it, it's an cute tiny girl I’ve growing inside me!

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I don't regret it.. I think it's bonded us even more to our son. We even named him (well.. middle name is being debated still). Also we're starting to buy stuff in spurts instead of waiting to get the major things because of not wanting to get all unisex stuff. So yeah it's helped………

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I don't regret finding out that Im having a girl. I think it helps with getting things prepared for her when she gets here. Now we call our baby by her name lol.

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Dont know about helping to bond but it sure helped me and the missus to purchase the correct colour clothes