Oct
i am pregnant with my 2nd baby and i went for my 12 weeks appointment with my midwife. she said am i considering a home birth this time and to be honest as i am still quite early on i didn't really consider it. but now i'm not sure. i would think it would be ideal as i have a 5 month old now and she will only be 1 years old when i am due and the hassle of trying to get her together and to lug myself to the hospital wopuld be a chore in itself! who would look after her while i'm in hospital till my husband arrived?? but the thing is i have a really low intolerance to pain. i was only 1 cm dilated when i went to hospital and i was throwing up and in agony. after about 5 mins on gas and air i stated i wanted an epidural. they don't provide an epidural for home births so i don't know what to do.
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Home births do sound nice and i was asked the same but i look at it in the way if anything was wrong with my baby i would have to pray we got to the hospital in time but if your already in the hospital the baby is in good hands,
Thats just my view there are many people that are more comfortable at home,
If you suffer bad with pain i think the hospital might be better but you could always start off at home and if you feel you need the hospital then go.
Good luck!
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If you don't have a high tolerance for pain I would say go to the hospital. They have everything you’ll need there and if something goes wrong at home they have the ability to take care of it quicker than if you were at home.
I'm sure you could get a friend to watch your child while you are in labor. Even a neighbor would probably do it.
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I would go to the hospital…not only for the pain, but if something were to happen to your child that required IMMEDIATE care…you would end up having to drive allll the way to the hospital. And I can tell you right now…i was throwing up at 3cm….epidural was the best thing ive ever gotten!!!
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ive had 4 kiddies all at hospital but i regret not having one at home ,i think it would be so much more relaxed , if i was you id leave an open mind and if you have a good midwife she would let you stay at home as long as you wanted.
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Things can take a turn for the worse during delivery in a split second and you might need an emerg c-section, even with a absolutely normal pregnancy.
I would never risk mine or my baby's life by having a home birth. Ever.
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Home births are nice, but if you have a very low tolerance to pain, then you`d better do ti in the hospital!
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I think the hospital would be ideal just in case something unexpected happens…
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Are you seriously asking this? Hospital
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I would go to the hospital just in case something happened. you can never be too safe.
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uhm
hospital!
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hi , hospital , safer and you can have your pain Relief
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Hospital!
i could never risk my babies safety and health just because i wanted to be in my own bed quicker.
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Just by your question it seems that you would be happier with a hospital birth. I personally am more comfortable with the idea because there are emergency services readily available should something go wrong. Also, I would not want my one year old to hear me screaming in pain during labor. It's best that kids not be in the room when that’s going on; there are other very good ways to involve them in the pregnancy and birth if you so choose. I would try to find a babysitter/backup/family member who you can notify at a moment's notice. Also, as the time gets closer you will be packed to go and hopefully your husband's work/whatever will be ready for him to leave. You’ve plenty of time to make a plan for that, as many people have to do when having their second child.
I don’t know much about home births to give much of an thought. I would simply rather the pain and mess be left at the hospital. Discuss with your doctor and husband, you’ve plenty of time to make a decision.
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I'm sure home births are great if you are the sort of person who gives birth naturally and easily. But it doesn't sound to me as if you’re. Home births are for people who basically plan to do without any medical help, pain relief etc. at all. If this isn't you then you need to go to hospital.
Do you’ve neighbours? Friends? You need to find someone who can look after your older baby while you give birth wherever it is - you can't be looking after a one year old while in the later stages of labour. If you don't know your neighbours that well, now is the time to get to know them so in an emergency they can look after your daughter until a relative or close friend arrives to take care of her. You should probably do this anyway. The emergency in question might not be labour, it might be mum falls over and breaks her leg. Much easier on your kiddy if she already knows the adult.
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I comprehend your concern with your young daughter, but i think you’ve to be realistic about this, you admit you were in agony with your first child and wanted an epidural, how would your young child feel if she were to see you like that? I comprehend it will be hard when you go into labour, but you have a while to go yet, its never too early to begin making plans, is there anyone who can come to your home and look after your tiny girl when it happens? If its not possible for her to be looked after at home, try letting her sleep over at the sitters home a few times before labour so its not so frightening for her when the time comes, congratulations and good luck.
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homebirths sound a lot better than hospital births as they re more private and personal but it doesnt matter even if uve had 10 children and they’d no complications during any of the labours, it doesnt mean this one will be the same, the human body is avery unpredictable thing and u dont want to have that panic if something is needed but the midwives dont have it like just state A SURGEON! Or if something happens like the baby gets distressed and you need a c-section.
The idea does sound great it really does, but i wouldnt have a homebirth unless i lived across the road from the hospital
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First things first, you have to do what you feel most comfortable with… take time to research your choices, make educated decisions… be aware of your risks and the benefits for both choices. only once youve done that will you feel comfortable with your choice. Personally, ive had three kids, first was born at hospital, it was meant to be completely natural but i ended up having each intervention, bar ceaser. the last two i had at home and i would do it all over again. i cant start to describe what an astounding, life altering experience it was. how much it differed from my hospital experience. however, i wasnt ready to have number one at home because it was such a large unknown, but once you've done it once, there are no surprises. it hurts! but the recovery was quicker, i was home with my baby, it was astonishing! but most importantly, it was the right choice for me and my family. what ever your choice, i wish you and your family all the very best.
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When I was pregnant with my 2nd my Midwife asked me the same thing but I stated Hospital. So with both my births they were hospital even if I had stated yes to having a home birth with the 2nd it wouldn't have happened as I had to be induced lol!
But I felt safer at the hospital just because I was there should anything untoward happen, not that i'm trying to give anyone bad thoughts it was just that with my 1st it was a nightmare labour and he had the cord around his neck! So I felt more at ease and also the pain relief factor! Although all through my pregnancy I said I didn't want an epidural….fast forward to the labour and I was begging for it 
(i have a low pain threshold as well) alas I didn't get it the baby was born before anyone knew it!
I had an older child and I arranged for my brother to look after him and I suppose if you don't have anyone to look after your then 1 year old it might be easier. But then again maybe not because will she be in the home with you?
My preference would be hospital though and you also get a bit of time to yourself as well if you’ve other kids cause lets face it, it's bloody tiring and you do need a few hours
Good luck and you'll make the right decision for you!
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without doubt - Homebirth is the ideal way to go.
I had my first in a birth centre surrounded by wonderful midwives.
My second was an emergency Cesarean surrounded by rude physicians who were very dismissive and clinical.
My third baby (born three months ago) was born at home surrounded by my loving family and a wonderful midwife whom I trusted absolutely.
I would never have considered a homebirth in the first place, but when I was six months pregnant, we moved interstate.
I went to the local hospital to book in, and it was awful. I was literally just a number.
On my 34wk appt, the stupid physician, who was a blow in locum anyway, decided he needed to do an internal examination…there was no reason for it, and I was too in shock to protest.
When I left, I swore I would not go back.
As I had had a ceasar with my 2nd, all the doctors kept telling me I was “high risk” and when I told them I wanted a vaginal birth, they would tell me “well, we’ll let you try I guess, but you’re aware of your chances of Uterine Rupture aren't you”….what a load of crap.
the chances of uterine rupture were like half a percent.
You’ll find that your second birth will go a lot quicker and be a lot less painful that your first. I couldnt' believe the difference….
and if you’re in an environment that you are comfortable in, you will be far more relaxed.
Do some research yourself….there are a million reasons why homebirth is actually safer than a hospital.
For anyone who fears “what if something goes wrong?” well, look at it like this - if you’re within a half hour drive from your local hospital, then you’re fine…..in an emergency situation in hospital, it will take on average half an hour for a surgery room to be prepped for you anyway - so if you are at home, with a qualified midwife, and something goes wrong - your midwife will call ahead to the hospital, get you in an ambulance, and by the time you arrive at hospital, they’ll be only just ready for you anyway.
In the Nederlands, it is commonplace for women to homebirth - in fact when your pregnancy is confirmed the government give you a homebirth kit as part of the medicare allowance - so why do we medicalise birth?
I’m not a hippy, or an “earth mother” …I am just a woman who wanted to claim my right to birth my child how I wanted to and to not allow stupid doctors to doubt me or interfere with me and my baby.
If you have a good midwife whom you trust - go ahead and give it a go…they usually use two midwives anyway.
Also, we’d my two year old and one year old present at the birth - it was the best solution as we didn't know anyone in town to babysit.
They LOVED it…..I was in a birthing pool, so they didn't see anything graphic, just mummy making some funny noises (which I prepared them for), and then a swiss in the water, and WOW there was their little sister - it was truly perfect…we all cuddled on the bed for photos, and then put the kids to bed, me and bubs flaked out on my bed, and got some sleep.
anyway, I advocate you do your own research, and then do what feels right to you - homebirthing is just as, if not more safe than hospital - statistics show that - so it would be personal choice.
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I think home births are great, and it has been proved that normal low-risk pregnancies have superior outcomes when women birthed in a home environment. But i think your need for an epidural might be a problem. You can have gas and air and you can have pethidine if prescribed by your GP prior to labour. I think if you want a home birth then you should look into substitute methods of coping with the pain, such as hiring a birthing pool or attending hypnobirthing classes. Remember you can always transfer to hospital for an epidural if all gets too much. Good luck with whatever you decide!
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It's completely up to you. Personally, I feel more secure being in hospital - I know that just in case something goes wrong, the necessary personel and equipment are in the same building. However, some people tense up so much in hospital that it makes their birth more difficult - like my mother in law who had 4 babies at home.
You should think about a few things - did you’ve any complications during your first? have you had any complications during pregnancy? Do you live close enough to the hospital - just in case something does go wrong? Also, is your local hospital struggling for midwives as home births stretch the midwife care even thinner?
would recommend a hospital birth for you - especially if you are concerned about pain relief. What if this one is even more painful than your first - could you cope?
But it's up to you.
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I would state go with a hospital. I think home births are a great idea and all, but they really are not the ideal option where safety is concerned. My sister was so against having a hospital birth and wanted to do it at home so badly. Her husband kept telling her it wasn't a good idea, and luckily she gave in. When she had to have an emergency C-section when my niece was born, everyone was so thankful she chose the hospital. They could have died if she would have been at home. Be safe. Select hospital.