May
I asked a question earlier on symptoms of a miscarriage and was told to go to A&E.
I went to A&E and had it confirmed. I didn't even know i was pregnant. I was wondering if there is a chance that i could be. I had sore boobs and backache and that's it.
I feel a mess. I feel like i am grieving and i didn't even know i was pregnant. I have been ttc for 15 months and i am absolutely devastated.
I just feel i have been ttc for so long. I feel this was my only chance and i have miscarried.
I’m devastated.
Help =(
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I was right where you are at right now 15 months ago. My period was late and my period is NEVER late, all the HPT's were negative, so I went to the doctor. They did another pregnancy test and a very faint positive showed up. They did a pap smear on me and told me they would contact me in a few days with the results. The very next day I got my period, but it was very heavy with lots of clots and lasted longer than normal. A month later I get a call back from the doctors office to confirm my pregnancy. I was in shock because like you, me and my husband were TTC. Although I didn't know I was pregnant, it still really hurt because I really wanted to have a baby. I called my husband and let him know what had happened, and his response was YES! We can have baby's!! Not quite the response I was hoping for, but he’d a point. We knew we could get pregnant, and I convinced myself that everything happens for a reason. Our bodies know what they are doing, and if a miscarriage happens it is because of something way out of our control but our body knows exactly why the miscarriage happened. I am now 33 weeks pregnant and I realize that me and my husband weren't ready in many ways to have kids 16 months ago. Although it hurts, you have to realize that things happen for a reason that you may not comprehend right now. Now you know you can get pregnant and when you are emotionally ready again, hit the sack and have fun! You will get your BFP when the time is right.
Good luck and lots of baby dust!
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I know how you feel sweety, I’ve miscarried myself 7 times.
The only thing you can do is take it one day at a time, sometimes that is too hard to do, then take it 1 minute at a time. I also was put on antidepressents for a short time because I couldn’t cope.
You might also want to try counseling. it does help with these situations.
I know you think this was the only chance but it can still happen.
I got pregnant in nov on my honeymoon, and I was not supposed to be able to have kids due to cervical cancer repeatedly.
If you want to talk email me at
sonjjajohnson@gmx.com.
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I miscarried and i didnt even know i was pregnant
i hade very sore boobs too and was only a week late on period. my husband was the one who insisted to do the test as he stated my boobs not usually very sore.
anyways when i did find out i was pregnant after 3 tests, it was shock. next day we made dr's appointment, and luckily he made ultrasound appointment in hospital the very next day. and on that day i was bleeding. almost as if i was on my period. normal lfow. the ultrasound didnt show anything
you can laways try again. but dont panic. think stress can lead to miscarriages
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I really feel for you. I had a miscarriage a few years ago without knowing that I was pregnant and it was devastating. What makes it worse is that 16 months ago my partner and I decided to begin trying for a baby and we have had no joy - there is now a question over whether or not I’m able to get pregnant again and I am currently undergoing tests, so I know how you feel about the missed chance. I don't think either of us have ever really come to terms completely with the loss but it does get easier. I wish you all the luck in the world and hope you have good news soon xxxx
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I miscarried in January and I had a horrible time of it, but the reality of it is that at least you know you're fertile. My doc stated that it was actually a good thing, since it shows that you can get pregnant. Go ahead and grieve for the loss, but as soon as you feel ready (and you're doc ok's it), try again and remember that most women have miscarriages at some point, and many don't even realize it, just thinking it's a heavy period. I got pregnant 6 weeks after my miscarriage, and I've got a healthy 12 week lima bean growing now! Good luck, and my deepest condolences.
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You are supposed to grieve regardless of whether you knew or not. In someways people find it easier to cope not knowing they were pregnant. Whatever you do dont bottle it up I miscarried my baby after coming round to the fact I was gonna be a mum (I got pregnant at 15, was gonna be a mum at 16) I bottled it up along with a lot of other things and ended up with depression. Go and see your GP he has the ability to help you and give you advice on what steps to take. This was not your only chance and i'm sure you will have the chance to be blessed again. Good luck.
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hi hun so sorry about your lost,,,,it does get superior as weeks past i haven’t had a misscarriage but i lost a baby 6 years ago so i know how you feel baby dust to you both x x x
i was devastated when i got pregnant 15 months ago i thought it was going to happen again but its a boy and now i am pregnant again
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You’re grieving, regardless of if you knew you were pregnant at the time you lost the baby - you know what happened now. So of course you're grieving your loss. Talk to people around you about it. If that doesn't help, speak to a counselor. But you need to speak about it to be able to get over it.
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Hun, this wasn't your only opportunity to conceive. Trust me, now it's going to be easier to conceive than it has before. Just keep trying, it will happen. I know 15 months seems like a long time, but a lot of women have waited years to conceive. Don't worry, it will happen. Give yourself a few weeks to heal, and try again. Good luck
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it is not simple to cope after a miscarriage and i advocate you go to a psychiatrist and speak this over with him. it would also help to begin some anti-depressants and those might help some.
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Well, now you know that you can get pregnant…so keep trying. It will happen again. =)
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I'm sorry to hear what you’re going through but your are not the only one that has been through a miscarriage there are lots of women that go through the same situation.. I’ve a miscarriage on Nov. 28, 2008 it was soo divesting for me due to it being my first child & me wanting my baby so bad!! But I believe everything happens for a reason & god just didn't think it was time for me to be a mom yet.. It is soooOO hard right now! my baby's due date is coming (6.24.09) but yet no baby is to be due on that date.. But not all bad new are bad.. I'm now currently 14w4d prego & new due date Nov. 12 && my pain is a tiny more at ease.. I know at the moment it feels like the whole world is coming down on you, but things will get better & a miscarriage is NOT YOUR FAULT!! I blamed myself but realized it is what god wanted..
I hope I helped..
God bless && baby dust to you!!
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Im so sorry hunni! I know how you feel, I had blood tests done about a month ago becaue they thought I had m/c. I was a little upset and i didnt even have it confirmed. (still dont know the results… but got to go back next week)
there is some good out of all this.. you know you CAN get pregnant!
Im not sure if this is true…. but people say that your are more fertile after a m/c! I dont know if thats true…
Il keep my fingers crossed for you hunni… you will get a BFP that will stick soon xxxx
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I have misscarried 4 times and I am only 20. The last time was about 7 months after my son was born and I even saw the tiny tiny body of my child. I’m so sorry for your loss. It is a very hard thing to cope. Rather the child was born or not it was your child and you’ve every right and should greive. Its ok to be sad and cry. I felt lost and like I would never have anymore too. Therapy is one option and there’s absolutly no shame in it. I even had a little mini ceramony for my lost children and the symbolic closer really helped. In the end though it really takes time. Grieve, speak to someone rather its family or a professional. In no way at all can you ever blame yourself though. I hated it and it made me angry when people said it wasn't meant to be because that underminded my childrens lives no matter how brief they were. Its ok to hurt but try hard not to get stuck in the saddness because it is so simple.
My email is littlelostcloud@yahoo.com
I don't give out my email but if you ever need to talk to someone who has been there before I certianly do not mind. Anytime and once again I’m so very sorry for your loss