Pregnancy Fears…?

My current pregnancy was not particularly planned, thus leading to the relationship with my unborn son's father ending. I’ve never had a real mother figure, my mum was just 17 when she gave birth to me and gave me to my father and my paternal grandparents when I was just 18 months old stating that she wasn’t ready to be a mother. I fear so much that as my pregnancy was not planned, that I’ll let my son down as my mother let me down. I am 6 months pregnant and currently somewhat emotional. Is it normal to have fears at this point? Did you have fears, if so what? I feel terrible for having such thoughts sometimes…

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This is normal…i feel like i won't know how to tell my baby that i love him or show my love for him because my mom never showed her feelings towards me…i feel my baby is going to love his dad more because he knows how to show his feelings….but just try to be how you would of liked your mom to be…

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I had a horrible experiance growing up with my mom, and now that I’m pregnant I know exactally what I’ll and won't do as a mom. I lived a bad childhood w/her, so I’ll make it a major point to give my child the childhood I never had. This is your chance to be the ideal mom you could possibly be. And I completely understand about the emotional part, I think at some point in everyones pregnancy they face certain fears like that. I know i have. Good luck to you and im sure you’ll be an astounding mom, just stay positive and motivated for your baby…

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Don't worry too much, especially when the Baby is born. You don't want to put stress on the Baby too. It is completely normal to have fears during pregnancy. In your situation you should have more fears than normal, but that is perfectly normal. I had many fears when my Baby was on the way… but you get over the fears as soon as you see your Baby's beautiful face and hold him/her in your arms. Don't feel terrible about thinking of giving the Baby up. I know you will reach success with your beautiful son and I know as soon as you look in his eyes you will love him too much to give him up.

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Everyone has worries during pregnancy. I worry about being a good mother sometimes, and I have a much easier situation than you do.

But what matters is that you want to be a good mom, and after what you've been through as a child I'm betting you'll try twice as hard to be there for your child.

Best wishes to you and your son.

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i was at the end of 16 when i got pregnant so yes i was very scared i would do this, i was actually going to put him up for adoption but changed my mind at the end. i have never regretted him but sometimes i really miss the freedom . i would never leave my son and i'm sure you won't if you feel this way now. you know what it did to you about your mother leaving, i have every confidence that you’ll not do the same

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hello,

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i just come accross this blog which might help you :-

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i think every pregnant woman worry over the slightest things, its hormones… it will soon pass.

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im 32 weeks pregnant and i have a son that is 3, i love him to death but my biggest fear right now is if i will be able to handle two of them, seth is going to be a great huge brother but im scared im not going to be able to give seth the attention he desearve or what if i dont connect to the baby and give him the attention he desearves. each mother has fears no matter how many kids they have if its there first or there tenth. all we can do is make sure we do what are moms didnt do or learn from our mothers mistakes. good luck and congrats on the babe everything will work out.

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It is absolutely normal to worry about your and your baby's future. I'm still together with my partner and we’ve a lovely 20month old boy. My pregnancy wasn't planned at all, but I had a traumatic childhood because my parents didn't care about me and used a lot of alcohol. I was very worried about my sons future,because I knew that I’ll not be able to give him everything he needs. The only thing he needs is your love at this moment. Try and learn from your mums mistakes just like I did! I don't drink, love him, feed him and dress him and restarted studies to give him future he deserves! Head up and be brave girl! What doesn't kill you, makes you stronger. Don't worry about the guy who left you, he obviously doesn't deserve you 2! There are a lot of guys out there who will appreciate a girl like you!!! Good luck with everything!!!