Feb
I just found out today by my mum that my sister 19 has had an abortion.At first when my mum told me i was upset and kind of confused as to why she felt she couldn't tell me.She didn't want my mum to find out either but she accidentally encountered her paperwork.Whats upset me even more is that i asked my mum not to go straight back to her and say that shes told me as i wanted to hear it from her so i can support her and talk to her and let her open up to me,but mum went straight to her and told her i knew and now ive got to somehow not mention it again apparently.Im 5 years older then my sister and we’re close and this is why its upset me so much.my sister doesn't want to talk about it and its so hard as all i want to do is talk to her.I know i have to respect her wishes but if my mum hadn't gone back to her and told her that i knew,it may of given my sister the opportunity to confide in me.Im just worried that shes suffering in silence and i don't know what to do for the best:-?
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When your sister is ready she will confide in you. She might just need some time to adjust to the very big decision she has just made. Just make her aware that you are there for her and she will eventually open up to you. Good luck hun!
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Just because she's your sister doesn't mean she has to tell you everything. Stop being selfish this isn't about YOU she just went through something extremely difficult. She will talk about it if she wants to/ when she's ready.
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You're sister just did one of the hardest things she'll ever have to do in her life. She's bound to be upset and confused, and she might have been worried that you'd judge her. She probably had second thoughts herself, and couldn't deal with criticism so soon. Giver her some time. Just be there for her as ideal you can (without mentioning it to her) and show her that you care. She'll open up to you when she feels ready to.
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give her some time then try to talk to her, she'll probably be more open to it