Apr
A tiny over a week ago i had a miscarriage, Im still heartbroken it happened and my first pregnancy will always be my first child. We’d been trying for 6 months for our first baby. Now after the miscarriage he states hes not sure if hes ready to try again, that hes scared. I asked what he was scared of and he said everything. (from having a baby to loosing another one. He states he wants just to be with me for a few more years. Im ready to be a mummy and am devastated about my miscarriage i just feel like ive had all the hopes and dreams plans we made have been taken from me.
How do i deal with this and how can i convince him that everything will be ok. Ive tried telling him everybody is worried and scared at having their first child. He keeps saying he will think about it but then states hes not ready. I Really want us to begin a family.
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hi huni, you need to tell him all you have written on here. i had a miscarriage and was deverstated my partner couldnt and still cant speak about it. i needed to replace all my pain with some happiness so i told him how i felt and said that even though i was gutted and felt as though my heart had been ripped out through my chest i needed to try again, he concurred. we started trying and fell pregnant that month. i now have a very happy beautiful 14 month old little girl. sometimes i look back at what could have been and feel very sad about my miscarriage but am happy with what i have got. 2 onths ago i fell pregnant again ( although on the pill!) but sadly i lost the baby again, i dont think i will ever get over what i lost but the pain gets easier.
speak to him, you both nered to be honest about how you feel and your fears.
good luck x
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Hi Brooke, it must be a very upsetting time for both of you right now, a week is not a long time, give him a chance to think things through and give your body a opportunity to rest following the miscarriage.
Have a sit down in few weeks to a months time to discuss after you're both had time to grieve.
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sorry for your loss. I just lost one myself 3 months ago. He just need time. But tell him the joy and reward will far outweigh the risk. I work in a hospital and even though this is tragic, it's very common. I see it each day. Best wishes
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everything you've just told me- you need to tell your partner, i really hope that this next time you’ll have you baby- but you also need to respect your partners wishes as well. good luck and god bless.
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I’m VERY VERY sorry for your loss! But it is said that sometimes it is very simple to conceive after a miscarriage
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Hi huni,
I am so sorry to hear about your miscarriage.
I lost my baby 8 weeks ago and my partner didn't want to try again - However he has now come around to the idea and I'm now about to enter my 2ww!
Losing a baby is very distressing so my guess is just he needs a tiny time. After all it has only been over a week.
Good luck hun. The key here is communication, tell him everything.
xxx
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im sorry for your loss and i dont really know what to state cause im only 14 but i like answering questions and helping people so my advice to you would be give your partner some time he was probably looking forward to having a baby and i know you would be upset cause the baby was inside you but he was going to be a father and he’s probably upset and just wants to hide it because he doesnt want to upset you because he is probably trying to be strong for you! but if its only been over a week then at least give it a month i mean it was a baby it was going to be your baby so its going to take some grieving time to get over it and then when hes ready in a few months tell him you want to begin a family with him and tell him if he’s worried say that you’re to and say you will stick together no matter what and you will be fine but just give him some time and give yourself sometime and i hope you in a few months will have a baby on the way and you will all be happy!
good luck! x
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you said it your self that he wants to try again in a few more year's which you should take comfort in as at least he wants one.
and to start asking him so soon after your loss is a bit much if you say you’re heartbroken then how do you think he feels?
try and get over this time of grief together and speak about how you feel but don't push trying just yet leave it a while so not only you can mentally recover but also physically.
when the time is right for a baby it will happen but don't put yourself or partner under anymore stress as it could drive you both apart
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After a miscarriage you need to wait to get a period before you should start trying again anyway to give your body a chance to recover. Maybe once that happens, he will think differently after he's had a bit of time to deal with the shock and upset of what has happened. I think he just needs some time to deal with it at the moment he's seeing you injured and is scared of it happening again. Once he's come to terms with it, he'll be strong enough to try again and I don't think it will take a few years, but maybe just let him have a few months.
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I understand your frustration, my dear.
Believe it or not, my husband and I tried to conceive for more than 8-months. We tried to refrain from sex for days and even weeks but it didn't help.
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