Apr
My friend had a miscarriage 3 months ago, but she still get really tearful and depressed because of it. I don't really know what to do to help her and whether it is normal for her to be loke this for so long.
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Oh, I m so sorry for ur friend's loss.
I had a miscarriage in last Might and I got pregnant again in September and I couldn't get over the miscarriage till just last month, now that my baby is due in 2-3 weeks, i feel much better and secure and hopeful.
Here r some facts about miscarriages that helped me get thro it.
There’s nothing u can do to prevent a miscarriage.
It wasn't ur fault or anybody else's fault , there’s nothing u did that caused it or nothing u could have doen to prevent it.
Miscarriage happens when the baby is not grwoing properly and thats why the body rejects the fetus and throw it out of the body.
Each 1 in 4 pregnancies is a miscarriage, and after miscarriage women have healthy pregnancy and healthy baby.
U can try again to get pregnant after u have 2 regular periods following a miscarriage.
You r more fertile after a miscarriage. don't stop taking prenatals.
Hope it helps even a little bit.
good luck.
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You never fully get over a miscarriage. When you’ve a miscarriage you’ve lost your baby, along with all of your hopes and dreams that came with the pregnancy. You learn to deal with it, but you will never be the same person that you were before. It can be hard, especially when you see other pregnant women, knowing that you should still be pregnant. Some women take longer to come to terms with miscarriage, she’ll come to terms in time, she’s still going through the grieving process.
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it can take any amount of time i guess. there are several factors, the person's emotional character; how far gone she was, how long she'd been trying.
i found out that I'd had a missed miscarriage. (the foetus was still inside, but had stopped growing) and i thought i wouldn't want to try again for ages - but i have realised that although that one chance has gone - i can't miss out on a wonderful child in the future because of it. we aren't actively trying (in that we aren't checking dates, checking temps or checking mucus) but we also plan not to use protection so what happens happens.
she may well be suffering from a form of depression - and she might find it beneficial to speak about it. i did, i talked to everybody close to me - and didn't stop for almost 2 weeks. you kind of grieve, and that can take time.
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I also had a miscarriage 3 months ago and get very sad at times. Especially when I am around other babies or walk past the baby clothes in Tesco. I don't think the pain will ever really go away. There’s not much anyone can state to make me feel better, sometimes all I need is a shoulder to cry on and a hearing ear. You just need to be there for your friend and let her grieve.
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Well, it is a pretty upsetting situation, especially if she had been wanting/trying to get pregnant. People deal with things emotionally at their own pace. One may be sad about it and not show it all the time, but others need time to heal. There’s really nothing you can do to help except be there for her, to listen, and to be empathetic.
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I had a stillborn 39 years ago. my neighbor is the same age as my daughter would of been. everyone is different. it takes a long time to get over that. now I have three healthy children. yes my daughter is mentally handicapped but she’s healthy and my youngest son 26 has c p but he walks and he is a happy person. remember that your husband is hurting also. my late husband and I cried together but we where there for each other
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You don't get over it. What she needs to do is understand that she is not on her own, and to refocus her attention to doing something positive. I’ve been the same having lost my baby on 21st Dec, 16 weeks… it was horrid. I have just done a test on Saturday and it's positive but am not even late on my period so! Just can't get excited about the 8 test results now… just incase. As I haven't yet had my period. I am going docs today at 5pm, (now 3pm and am leaving work in 1 hour) counting the minutes. I hope your freind finds a new focus good things will happen. Be there for her it takes time.xxxxx
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I had two miscarriages before i had my 13week baby girl. Each time it took 6months to fall and both times i lost at 9wks. Its still painful now because you never forget. As soon as your pregnant you go into baby planning mode. Maybe she should start trying for a new baby that helped us even after the second lose. Just because she had a miscarriage doesn't mean another lost either. Fingers crossed for her. Just be there for her and have some fun as friends.
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i dont think you ever really get over it, it just gets a little less painfull with time. she needs a good friend like you to support her through this. if its really bad then she should consider asking her physician to refer her for some councelling
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There’s no set time. Your friend is grieving the loss of her baby. A friend of mine still gets upset on the anniversary of when she miscarried 5 years ago. She always purchases flowers to remember her loss.She has 2 healthy sons now.
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There’s no time limit to grief - everyone is different. The ideal you can do is to be their to listen to her to support her.
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There’s no set time. Her hormones may still out of sync. This is a tragic loss. She needs needs time, a listening ear, and understanding. Help her by being there, hugging her if she wants, and supporting her.
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As long as it takes I wouldn't have thought there’s a set time limit