Sep
I'm a virgin, 18, have been with my boyfriend for 7 months and we're going to have sex this weekend (dont tell me its too soon or whatever, we've made up our minds)
anyway
When i was younger i used to horseride like evryday (i lived on a stables) so from the ages of like 2-15 i horserode pretty much everyday
is it likely that my hymen has already broken?
and if it has will sex for the first time not be as painful?
thanks in advance!
Answer:
Only you can state if your hymen is broken or not.
Why not just look? It should be obvious.
Part of the pain is that, and part of it is the stretching, I think, because you're obviously so tight.
And also obviously, it depends on how massive he is.
It doesn't always injured. The only virgin I 'deflowered' didn't injured at all, but a couple other girls hurt a bit, because they hadn't had sex for a long time, but you know, it all depends, because I'm not that massive either.
A lot of variables.
Just make sure this happens:
1. LOTS of foreplay. I don't mean 15 minutes of breast fondling and a tiny bit of fingering. I'm speaking about 1-2 hours, if that's what it takes to get you completely relaxed, excited, wet (VERY important), and ready.
What I always do with a new girl, is I make a nice warm bath for her, light candles, turn out the lights, and I sit on the edge of the bathtub and very slowly bathe her entire body. First while she's sitting back, then I’ve her get on her hands & knees, and I was her legs, back… EVERYTHING, very, very, very slowly. Like a nice slippery massage with soap!
(This is very romantic and very erotic. So have him do that.)
Then we both rinse off in the shower, and I lead her to the bed, and I give her a nice long back massage, which I then turn into 'kissing the entire body', very slowly.
Then I roll her over, and do the same thing, kissing her everywhere, slowly, ending with a long, gentle oral sex session (me giving to her, not the other way around).
At this point, you should be very relaxed, and very aroused.
2. Tell him to enter you VERY slowly.
Like, put just the head in, and hold still for a couple minutes, until you can rest & not 'clamp down', which is gonna make it injured.
Then tell him to gently, and very, very slowly, go in like maybe another inch, same thing. Stop until you're relaxed.
Then maybe he can go in and out, just that one inch, so you can get used to that for a while.
Then SLOWLY go in another inch further, VERY slowly, then in and out with those 3 inches… You get the idea.
I'm always amazed at how many girls I've been with tell me that their first time, the guy basically just rammed it into them, hurting them like hell.
Most young guys are completely clueless, would NEVER in a million years think of the stuff I just mentioned, so unless you tell him otherwise, that's what's gonna happen, trust me. You're gonna get a stiff one jammed inside you, and it's gonna injured.
I'd recommend having him read THIS EMAIL. I'm serious.
Or even PM me for advice, I'm an older guy who is very experienced.
I don't mind, I've been through a lot, so I could help you guys with ideas, if this hasn't already.
You only get ONE first time, so you should make sure that he makes it special.
Answer:
Often you can have your first period for a few short days, and then nothing for another six months so I wouldn't worry about that time you can remember.
Unfortunately the only way to answer your first questions is to have sex and find out. It's possible you may have broken fully or partially your hymen through horse riding, but that would be no indicator of whether sex will be painful or not either - the ideal way is to be prepared, have lots of foreplay in the run up to losing your virginity to get your vagina used to being penetrated, make sure that you’re turned on and relaxed when you do have sex and take it slowly.
Answer:
I think you seem like a really nice girl :] and i'm not sure, i don't think your hymen could have broken from horse riding.
the first time didn't injured for me, but as well as your well lubricated and RELAXED, erch the worst thing to be is panicky and nervous, you seize up, you should be fine.
goodluck
xxxx
Answer:
your hymen may have broken and it might not it can break even doing exersise
and it does not matter how much you lubricate if your not relaxed it will nurt to some extent so take it slow on the nite make sure your bf uses plenty of foreplay or a massage to get your relaxed and there ya go
Answer:
it is very likely that ur hymen is already broken.
as long as ur well lubricated then sex wont injured
ps. i dont think ur having sex to soon
Answer:
it depends on whether or not you bled before you got your period cuz that will tell you…but whether it broke or not it will still injured because your vagina is still tight..